How often do you catch yourself saying something negative about yourself out loud or in your head? You might be surprised how often it happens. Many people aren’t even aware that those quiet little thoughts or muttered comments are actually sabotaging their success and confidence.
The first step is awareness. Start noticing what you say to yourself when things don’t go quite right. Do you mutter, “Well, that’s just my luck,” or “I knew that would happen”? That’s negative self-talk at work; and it’s quietly shaping how you see yourself and how others see you.
Here’s the truth: things will go wrong. Life isn’t perfect. But what matters is how you respond. If you let one bad moment spiral into a day of negativity, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. One small frustration snowballs into a “nothing goes right for me” kind of day. But if you pause, take a breath, and choose not to give it power, you stop that domino effect before it starts.
When negativity sneaks in, try shifting your focus. Think of something you’re grateful for. Gratitude changes your energy; your vibration and helps push the negative thoughts away. It’s amazing how a single positive thought can shift your entire mood and outlook.
Over time, constant negative self-talk chips away at your self-esteem and even your health. People who are always expecting the worst often end up feeling tired, unmotivated, or unwell. On the other hand, positive thinkers aren’t immune to challenges, but they usually bounce back faster because their mindset supports their recovery.
Start small with positive affirmations. Practice them when you’re in a good mood so they’re ready when you need them. It might feel awkward at first, but like any new habit, it gets easier. Pay attention to patterns: the people, places, or situations that trigger your negative thoughts; and have your affirmations ready to go.
You don’t have to live with a negative mindset. You can change it. It takes time, awareness, and a little courage; it’s worth it. When you stop talking yourself down and start lifting yourself up, you’ll notice more confidence, better energy, and people who love being around you.
So, the next time that inner critic says “Typical me,” pause and replace it with “I’m capable, and this is just a moment.”
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Trish Springsteen
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